My willingness to date men who earn less, who aren’t white collar, and who have unusual financial circumstances opened the door to me meeting a great guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Women who don’t understand their own marketability, and think that they can pull the same types of power earners that they pulled 20 years ago are in for a world of hurt.
It’s not pretty, but the sad socio-cultural reality is that black men have not kept pace, either academically or economically, with black women. And, racism is still alive and well. This means that like me, black women are going to have to realistically take stock of their options. Those who are willing to widen the criteria they use for evaluating men will have better luck in finding a partner; those who insist on an extremely narrow criteria may never find someone.
It isn’t fair, but it is what it is. There are certain ethnic/cultural groups of men who likewise experience significant discrimination: East Asians (i.e., Indian & Pakistani), middle easterners, and Asians, not to mention short men. Maybe more black women should be cognizant of others who are in the same boat, and do more reaching out to them.
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