From Jill Scott’s editorial in Essence about the “wince” she makes when she sees a black man with a white (or just non-black) woman, to the recent panel discussion questionably titled “Why Can’t A Successful Black Women Find A Man,” it seems that to many, my successful sistas and I are kind of in the pits, because we are single, female and black. Ouch.
I say don’t believe the hype. If we are told not to accept what the world gives us and strive for more in our careers/finances/lifestyle, why don’t we do the same for our love lives? For many of us Parlouristas, we are chameleons in our careers, always adding to a growing list of talents, trying new things and being pleasantly surprised by our potential. We acknowledge and respect the past while remixing the future. With great opportunities come great responsibilities and sometimes stressful situations, so why make your personal life another issue? There is no doubt that being a woman of color in this world has it’s own set of peculiar challenges, however when we make obstacles for ourselves it does nothing to lighten the burden.